For the couple doing the asking
Your wedding message has one job: sound like the couple and send everyone to a page that holds the day. Pick a register, keep the chat short, and let the venue, the schedule and the reply button live behind the link.
Every wedding message negotiates the same tension: the day is formal, the medium is the chat app where your cousins send memes. Some couples resolve it by writing like a printed card, small serif voice included. Others lean into the casualness and sound like themselves. Both work. Wobbling between the two is what reads badly.
Decide who you are. If your grandmothers are on the guest list and tradition matters to you, formal is honest. If the evening ends with friends doing terrible karaoke, a friendly message sets the right expectation. The page you publish looks the same either way; only the voice changes.
Same facts, different temperature. Copy either and swap in your details.
Together with their families, Marta and Tom request the honour of your presence at their marriage on Saturday 3 October at half past three, Lindqvist House, Stockholm. The order of the day, directions and a reply page are here: [link]. Responses kindly by 12 August.
We're getting married and we want you there when it happens. Saturday 3 October, Lindqvist House. Ceremony at half past three, dinner after, dancing if the music holds. Everything else, including a button to reply, is on this page: [link]. Tell us by 12 August.
You have survived our planning phase. Now survive the speeches. 3 October, half past three, Lindqvist House. Vows, food, regrettable dancing. The page has the details and a reply button; use it by 12 August: [link].
The card arriving in your postbox carries the same link, printed plainly. Type it or open it, and you land on the same details and the same reply page: [link].
The split that keeps the message under six lines.
Who is marrying, the date, the start time, the venue name, a reply-by date and the link. Six lines, no more. Everything here helps a guest decide whether they can come.
Order of the day, ceremony and reception addresses, travel and parking, dress code, the question your aunt will ask anyway, gift notes. Guests read it after deciding, at their own pace.
The reply button on the page. Plus-one answers come back inside the limits you set, and the guest list updates as each answer lands instead of living in your chat scroll.
How it works
Give Jitabi the shape of it on WhatsApp: date, town, rough guest list, formal or friendly. It drafts a site you can edit. If you prefer typing to chatting, Clara on the web builds the same thing with you.
Story, schedule, venue and directions, dress code, questions. This is what keeps the message short: every heavy detail has a home.
How many plus-ones you are willing to allow, meal choices if there is a caterer, and the deadline guests see beside the button.
With the page live, the wording almost writes itself: names, date, venue, deadline, link. Send it and the list begins counting on its own.
Questions
It is how most of your guests already talk. Many couples send a formal card to older relatives and a warm WhatsApp message to friends, with the same link on both. Register is a choice; reach is not, and everyone in the chat sees the invitation at the same time.
Plenty of couples keep a small print run for elders and close family and go digital for the rest. The page works either way: print the link or a QR code on the card and paper guests land on the same reply list as chat guests.
Do not spell out guest-by-guest entitlements in the chat. On the page, each reply shows the plus-one options you actually allowed for that invitation, so the question asks itself inside your limits and nothing awkward has to be typed by anyone.
In step with your cards: roughly two to three months before the day for a local wedding, earlier if many guests travel. Save-the-date messages can run a year ahead, which gives the reply deadline room to be generous.
It happens, and one line back sorts it: lovely, and could you tap the link and confirm there so the numbers count properly. The list updates itself, so the message never has to become your spreadsheet.
Get Started
Draft the message, publish the page that carries the day, and let replies arrive in one list. Start free, and the plans page explains where to go as the guest list grows.
